When she first moved in I tried to make her feel at home. I am speaking about my husband's grandmother. She had to move in with my husband my one year old and myself. I stay at home with my son, he has Down syndrome so I didn't trust anyone to care for him the way I would.so when she couldn't live alone anymore, she came to us. She is a spiteful person. She loves to get on her phone and talk loud enough for you to hear. She is always talking about me and when confronted she lies. As a result I no longer really want to have any thing to do with her. She will then act nice and toss in her snide comments. She complains that my son has too many toys I shouldn't get him any for Christmas. Things like that drive me crazy! I don't know what to do and I am miserable everyday. Some days to the point my chest hurts and my head throbs. I have to rise above all of it but I don't know how. I feel like a failure and a terrible person because I really at this point have no interest in speaking to her at all. I just want to keep my distance. She is of sound mind it's just a mean mind, from what I understand, it always has been. We can't put her in a home because it would kill my husband to do so and would end up resenting me for not being able to handle it. I am feeling pretty down these days and that is why I'm here. I need advice on how to overcome this and be comfortable in my own home again. Any help would be great but please no derogatory things. I have enough of that in my life just now.