Mom's husband of 19 years said he was leaving as soon as she didn't recognize him and he did. He lived off mom through the marriage. It was her home and the bills came out of her account. He had enough money to last him the rest of his life from a multi million dollar settlement he got from his son. Gave me flack for asking him to pitch in. Told me he gave mom $25,000. This was when mom had moderate dementia so who knows where the money went. Refused to help pay a penny for her caregivers. He figured if he wasn't getting mom's house, he wasn't giving anything to her. It was a second marriage so mom did a prenup due to him having the habit of giving everything he had to his loser adult children and others who would easily take advantage of him. She didn't want what she worked so hard for going to his "kids" if something was to happen to her. Constantly yelled at me that she's an adult and can take care of herself though she looked and smelled like homeless due to not bathing or taking care of herself. Took her to casino spending all her money in midst of moderate dementia.
I finally got mom caregivers and I was the bad guy for helping her smell good and be taken care of. Mom finally fell and needed 24 hr care she couldn't afford at home. Mom had to go in memory care. My out of state relatives hate me because when he left he told them I put mom in a nursing home and he can't afford to live in the state. He's a millionaire mind you and left out the part that he was leaving when she didn't recognize him anymore. He also told them I sold mom's house and that the money would be going to me. Truth is she wasn't living there anymore so the house needed to be sold and the money is used for her care. I'm the bad guy again for taking care of mom. What's wrong with relatives who believe this guy and feel sorry for him over blood relatives? They refused to see me when they came out to see my mom recently and mom's place is 8 minutes away. I think they also didn't want to see my husband because he's very type A and gets just as upset and sometimes more upset than me over the situation. Before coming out they didn't even call me. They had my cousin ask on facebook where my mom lived and then I found out they were coming out when I asked. I wanted so much to explain the truth to them, but husband convinced me to let it and them go. He said then I would look like the crazy one because they still wouldn't believe the truth. I already told my cousin I was not happy about my uncle not calling and she turned things around on me making me look like the bad guy for expecting him to call before coming out. I guess at least they're all out of state and I don't have to deal with them. Anyone else have this craziness? How sad!