This question concerns my 64 year old father, residing in a small town with his ex-partner (since Jan this year). He has been living with this woman for about 3 years. My father has informed me he no longer wants to stay in this town, the relationship has broken down and he wants out. I live in another state (of Australia). He has no other family or friends who live nearby, just the ex-partner and her family. He wants to move near me. He has asked for my help to update his POA and his will. He rings me when she is not around and tells me he does not want her help with this. He also wants to go to the bank and make some changes but again he does not want her there as ‘she stands right there next to me’. I organised for him to be taken to a lawyer this week. He specifically told me he wanted a different lawyer to the last one who drew up his will which happened 2 months after he had a massive stroke back in 2015. He said he was happy with to go with the plans I made. Then the next day he rang me to tell me he has changed his mind. He told me he was rushing into this. He also said he would go back to the previous lawyer as it would just make things ‘easier’. When I questioned him further, his ex-partner spoke up in the background, having had me on loud speaker and told me “I am his carer, this is my job. I help him, you don’t. He will go to a lawyer when he is ready and I am ready to take him”. She is currently his POA and a benefactor of his will. I am in the process of making plans to go visit in 2 weeks’ time, but in the meantime, I am concerned about my father. He wants to move on in his life but she still lives there, collecting a carers payment, free board, free food. He pays the utilities, her car expenses and insurances. I doubt that she has informed any government agency of their change in relationship status. He also abruptly ends our conversation when she returns home. He tells me she often leaves him home alone, sometimes overnight while she babysits her grandchildren " I do have another life you know!" she tells me. He says he copes fine with being alone. However, upon speaking with his brain injury case manager recently, she is concerned that he could forget things while he is alone like leaving a stove or kettle on. My father is hoping she will move on once his house has sold (her name on house title as well) and he pays her out a large cash sum (which is an amount agreed between them). Apparently she has no money to move out at the moment. She has also made suggestion to him that they could just keep living in this ‘arrangement’. My father cannot legally drive, read or write properly and is partially blind since his stroke. He also suffers short term memory loss amongst other problems. I feel he is crying out for help but I don’t know how to help him when he refuses my help in her presence.