I'm 59, disabled with an inherited heart condition and am now taking care of my narcissistic mother. I learned through this sight what I'd been trying to figure out for years. A few weeks ago I discovered my mother is narcissistic. From that discovery I have cried many tears now knowing it wasn't me for all these years it was her. I've been having "flashbacks" that curl the toes. I've buried so much abuse and it's all coming to the forefront. Now, because of a widespread power outage and then massive flood my mom is living with me. She's 88 and showing signs of dementia. My only sibling passed away from cancer in 2003, my dad in 2005. I had no problem caring for my dad who had Alzheimer's and heart disease. I'm not handling my mom well at all. Three years ago she was dx with a tumor on her ovary and refused a biopsy. The Dr told me he was as certain as he could be that it was malignant. I woke up at 5 am this morning and in the bathroom I found blood on both of my bathroom rugs. I'm scared and know what this means and I'm angry she has continued to lie about it (and many other things). She refuses to go to the Dr, take a bath and many other things. I've had to reach out to my Dr for anxiety meds. My bp has been sky high. I'm at a loss. Once again she's keeping secrets and this one will kill her if her house situation doesn't. I'm leaving the rugs where they are so she'll see them when she gets up. Then what do I do?