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My wife is suffering from deep depression after the passing of father only about 2 weeks ago. We live in Winter Garden fl. He lived and died in Ocoee fl.

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Thank you, palmtrees1, for providing wisdom and local resources for makado.

Makado, I'm so sorry for the loss your wife and you have suffered. You are suffering for her now, too, since you likely feel helpless to "fix" her grief.

Grieving is a process that takes time, so patience is a must. People also grieve in a very individual manner and it's not a straight line to "getting over it." We never get over it but we learn to incorporate it into our lives. Grief support, such as palmtrees suggested, can be very helpful. I hope that your wife can take advantage of this.

Meanwhile, the best thing you can do is listen and support her as she grieves. Don't try to fix it. Let her work it through. Suggestions (like the grief group) are good, but don't push too hard. Gentleness is the best approach. You can try again later if she won't go right away.

Please keep us posted on how you are both doing.
Carol
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First let me say how sorry I am for your loss.

There are therapy groups and physicians who deal with depression of all types in Winter Haven Florida, just google it. I am sure the hospice/hospital/nursing facility who helped care for your father in law would have much information about the best places to go and people to talk to. I have always found comfort in talking to someone who has walked in my shoes.

I too live in Florida and know there are many services for the sick and dying due to our large elderly population. Maybe even talk to your family doctor. Your wife's behavior is normal to some degree but should not be a permanent situation.

Good luck to you and keep us posted.
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Two weeks is not very long to grieve, have patience. I lost my mother last month and I was so tired afterward, my three brothers were exhausted too. If she is normally an active person, start planning some fun things, but give her space, tell her you have fun plans and would enjoy her company, but you will understand if she doesn't want to join you quite yet. If she's a homebody plan some fun things for yourself around the house, like plant a new garden in her fathers's memory, your wife will like that and maybe she'll want to join you in picking out plants or seeds. You are a very thoughtful husband, but sometimes these things can't be rushed.
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