she has had every imaginable treatment, drug, and therapy, but all she wants to do is lay on the couch and when asked all she says is "I can't" and I won't". My dad is 81 and is in good health and is now care taking her completely because she refuses to do anything. I have tried my best to let my father understand he needs to change his behavior or my mother will remain in this state until one of them passes away...which will probably be my father. I used to be close to my parents, but since all this has transpired, the frustration and anger and pain throughout the course of 3 years has caused health issues for myself. I have stepped away completely from this situation because frankly, my parents have been together for 60 years and now I look at them as one dysfunctional unit. Any last ditch effort suggestions for the both of them? I really don't think my father will listen to anyone...so I guess I am just venting...I do suffer from guilt because I have chosen to not have any contact with them because nothing changes. We live in the Scottsdale Arizona area...any suggestions? Thank you.