My father just passed away. My mother is clinging to me. I know this is normal in grief, but I can't handle it for very long. My mother is undiagnosed BPD, she abused me emotionally as a child, and I have been her emtional "punching bag" for 51 years. It may sound selfish, but I WANT MY OWN LIFE. I can give her a couple more weeks of every day visits, but how do I wean her off me? Sorry if this sounds insensitive...maybe I can hang in there for my dad's sake. But in truth, I'm scared to death of the future now.