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My elderly dad passed away last Friday in a hospice facility of Covid-19. He had many health crises in the spring and was diagnosed with LBD. I cared for him full time in his home for over a month. It was clear he could no longer live alone. I had to place him in an AL. Sadly, he was taken to the ER two weeks ago. He was diagnosed with Sepsis, pneumonia, respiratory failure and Covid. He had many other serious underlying health issues.
I was unable to visit him in the hospital, but was a allowed an outdoor window visit at Hospice. I was able to say goodbye and thank him for all he did for me in life.
Due to Covid, I am choosing to film his memorial service and share with family and friends. There will be a delay with the service due to many factors.
My mind remains on high alert... still waiting on “a call.” The past 17 years have not been easy with my dad. I felt deep sadness and deep peace at the hospice window. Now I don’t know what I feel. My home is 5 hours away. I need to return to my family, but feel like I’m just “leaving” things. I have never been through the death of a parent. Any advice?

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I’m sorry for what you’ve been and are going through. I lost my dad last month and it’s been both like time is standing still and going quickly. There’s a lot to do, for me it’s easier to move through it quickly. But this is an individual thing, for others they deal with it better in smaller steps. Absolutely return to your family for a bit, all the final matters can wait for a while. Rest, give yourself a time to get to a better emotional place, grieve, and focus on the good. I’m not positive I’ve even done all those things though I’m trying. I’m glad you got to a peaceful place with your dad. I wish you peace for yourself as you move forward
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Sunnydaze, I am so sorry for your loss.

May God grant you grieving mercies and wisdom during this difficult time.

Do what you need to do for you right now. If that means going back to your home and family you are not doing anything wrong. There is no right way to cope, it is whatever works for you and gives you comfort now.

Great big warm hug!
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Reply to Isthisrealyreal
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SunnyDaze, you have been through so much with your dad. I'm so sorry for your loss. I just want to send ((((hugs))))))
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Sunnydayze Aug 9, 2020
Thank you, Barb.
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