Getting work FMLA approval for time to move parents to memory care. Any advice?
I’ll need to take weeks (or months) off from work to help my parents find and move to a Memory Care facility, and dispose of the house and 50+ years of contents to help pay for the $6K-$8K/month care. My 80-yo mom has Alzheimer’s and it’s at the stage of being beyond my 80-yo father’s dwindling abilities. They will stay together, still very much in love. All legal paperwork is in order by their attorney, naming me at POA etc. The best way I can love them is to make sure they’re both safe, as they did for me as a child! I live a 3-hour drive from my parents. My 50-yo sister lives locally to M&D but she’s stricken with Multiple Sclerosis. She’s been able to do a lot of internet and telephone legwork, and has experience in living in an assisted care facility. She knows what to look for (and more importantly what to look out for!). My question is: does the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) acknowledge the need to take time off from work to locate a facility, the move itself, of house/content disposal etc. of a parent with Alzheimer’s? Or is FMLA strictly to ‘directly care’ for a sick family member? Maybe I’ll have to color the FMLA reasons to state that I need to be present to help with ‘bathing, cooking, driving, medications’ etc. so it will be a ‘medically necessary’ absence? I don’t want to stretch any truths on a legal document, knowing that I’ll need the neurologist to sign such papers and agree to what’s on the FMLA forms. I don’t know how tough they’d be with their description of medically necessary time-off. I’m afraid to directly ask my HR department for fear of tipping them off of my upcoming absence. I’m 55-yo and would be unable to find another similar paying job in my field, like, if they choose to get rid of me now. I don’t care to show them my cards prematurely since I cannot give them a date of planned absence yet. Private business has a funny way of getting around in our company. My manager only cares that employees show up, and has actually told me he didn’t want to hear anyone’s troubles. OK then! I’m very interested in hearing comments from those who’ve successfully received workplace FLA-approval SPECIFICALLY to handle your geographically distant parent’s relocation/property due to an Alzheimer’s situation.