She refuses to hire help! I have 3 teens with a chronic health issue. One has Autism and epilepsy and one has schizophrenia, and one has dyslexia for which I have to battle a school district over! and my husband has a mental illness and health issues. I have no help with my own family; and I was already streched thin when Mom had a stroke that left her paralyzed. I know this is EXTREMELY hard on my sister. I help just 7 hrs a week. other sibs help for an additional 15-20 hrs. weekly. I drive 40 mins to get to her house. I try to help when I can, but sometimes I cannot. This has been going on for 4 yrs now. I feel bad that I can't help more, and I think she is resentful and not understanding that sometimes I can't come on one of my days to help-but she REFUSES to hire help because having someone else in her house is an invasion of her privacy.
I am sleep deprived, exhausted, and am facing health issues due to the stress of my own situation. I am feeling guilty and upset because she does not seem to understand my situation. My other sibs are getting tired,too. We have tried to talk to her in regards to finding other solutions (ie:either hiring help or looking for a long term care facility, but she will not have a conversation about it.) What should I do?