Some of you have known my problem for years now. She really hasn't spoken to her two adult sons in years. I am being accused of manipulating, coercing, and they say I am responsible for all our family problems. It was tolerable in my mind about my two brothers until I recently found out that the next generation, my 5 nieces and nephews, feel like their Dads feel about me. They are all over 21 years old. This new info absolutely kills me. It hurts my mother to the core. She tries so hard to get the whole mess out of her mind, but mentally can't do it. She has tried medicine, counseling, and keeping herself busy. I hate that her last few years on earth are going to be filled with anger, resentment, and such sadness. She is always asking me where she went wrong and my words mean nothing to her to try to explain it isn't her fault. If only there were apologies to her. I am long gone about any possible relationship with either one of them. Mom feels differently. She wants to "get this family straightened out before she kicks the bucket". I tell her it can't be done. She says there is always hope. Can anyone write directly to her and I will read your responses to her?