My common law husband is 22 years my senior. He'll be 78 in a month.
Three years ago he had a stroke, and then another one two years ago. After the first stroke he developed severe aphasia that didn't resolve and with the second stroke in 2018 he was diagnosed both with vascular and behavioural fronto-temporal dementia.
For those who are not familiar with this rarer type, this is the one where the memories are not really affected but behaviour is.
My husband, who was always thrifty, not to call him cheap, and who would drive to another store to save 50 cents on his purchase, started to send thousands of dollars to Trump! $10,500 to be exact to a billionaire. And we are in Canada! And we are barely pulling though this pandemic as my business was beyond decimated.
While his doctor is saying he has 'advanced dementia', I'm not able to live with my husband due to physical and emotional abuse, with him threatening that he will hurt himself and call the police and blame me, to blaming me that I'm stealing from him and that I'm putting something in the air to poison him.
He is so cheap that now that I live in a different residence, he heats up the place with an old gas fireplace and gas stove, and I think this is where this 'poisoning' idea might come.
However, he does not want to go for medical evaluation, and from what I saw from reading case file, nobody will declare him financially incompetent as they believe people are allowed to act financially against their own interest.
I daily worry but for all my help and support and paying all the bills I only get abuse.
Did anybody had similar issues? Any advise?