Ok. My father passed a few months back. Step mom in declining health but ok. Lives alone but soon will need much more care. I've noticed a lot of secret conversations and code talking when I am around mom and sister and brother in law. I did ask if she had power or attorney or signing on checking account and she said no. But I did find where she has had a credit card for years that my dad paid each month. Also finding out about cars, gifts, etc..etc... paid to them and grandkids. I assume everything from dad went to step mom but there has been nothing official and when I ask cautiously I am brushed aside. I am definitely not the dominant one in the family. My feelings lead me to believe that they have been siphoning money from them for years under pretext of not working and financially strained. Now I feel they have somehow turned my step mom against me as it relates to finances. I am the one that drops everything to travel 2hrs to help her when needed for doctors visits but then told they have it under control when all is calm. I am not money hungry but I have been shafted several times and just want to know where we all stand. I also want to know and make them accountable with my dads money. I feel as though they will get my step mom to just rehearse something to me so I don't want to approach her. I know if I get tough and approach others it will certainly strain relations. Don't I have a right to know? Do I have any legal grounds should it get there to demand an audit back x number of years to see what money was there and what is there now? What if they did get POA but it was abused? Who would decide that?
I know this is a book but I am just trying to get some solid understanding on matters. thanks