On October 17th my mom fell three times....in one morning. I was the only one with her when she fell the last two times that day. She was taken to the hospital and 6 days later was put into a skilled nursing facility. From there...3 weeks to the day, she fell again in the facility. Again, she was taken to the hospital and after two nights, put back into the nursing facility.
(Please note that my mother suffers from Lewy body and vascular dementia...along with a laundry list of other health issues she's suffered from in one form or another since she was only 14 years old.) Since this last fall, her health has gone from being able to get around the house and using her cane when she goes outside, able to feed herself, bathe herself with prompting and clothe herself...to needing round the clock nursing care. She has to be wheeled around in a wheelchair, sometimes needs help with feeding herself, needs a nurse to bathe her and clothe her and physically cannot stand for more than a few seconds without hurting. She gets very agitated and anxious during the day but is peaceful and serene at night. If I visit her during the day, she thinks I'm taking her home....but at night seems very, very happy and quiet or is mercifully sleeping.
My question is this; when will I stop blaming myself for the state she is in? When will I be able to move forward and be merry for Christmas? My husband and I shared quarters with my mom in her house so not having her here is a double whammy as we have no place of our own to go to for the holidays and my husband's family lives out of state in Washington, Montana and Oregon. Will my mom eventually adjust to being in a nursing home? If so....when? She's been there since October 22nd of this year.