I’m living away from hometown, while my brother is closer by my parents. My parents help taking care of his kids for free, helped with his first home. But somehow, even though I never asked for a dime from my family since 1st year college, my parents seem to expect me to shower them with gifts and meals every time I visit home. I used to happily do so because to me, money is something shareable among family. Until one day, my mom jokingly told me that I’m in no place on their will, because I have no kids. At that moment, I was hugely offended. So, I work hard professionally to make money for my family and ended up they are the one discriminate me for not having kids. Even more unfairly, they don’t see money as shareable like me. It’s as if all these years, the love it’s all one sided. Since then, I come home less, figure if I come home less I feel less pain. But this year, dad needs a minor surgery and I feel the need to be with him. But once again, they said something hurtful. I recently bought a home and my mom said something like “your dad suggested a house warming gift to you, but I veto’d him. Why should we give you anything?” In a separate conversation, she also “ordered” me to buy her a new computer because hers is too old. And then, meal after meal we ate out, they seem to expect me take care of the check, even thought I dropped everything to visit them in a short notice to help out on surgery. I really don’t expect them to pay, I just want them to show bit of appreciation and love. I don’t want to feel not appreciated or being taken advantage of... Is it too much to ask? What should I do?