When family criticizes but does nothing to truly help on a reg basis? When family wants to put your parents in a facility? I promised my mom I wouldnt let that happen but my two sisters want her to. They do nothing but show up at will and disregard me as primary CG and discuss the issue with family friends of my parents and among one another while not considering th promise I made my mom. I can't do it all, and my parents complain & dismiss all outside help for the most part. I am exhausted and the lack of support from my siblings is equally if not more damaging. Despite the hardships I have so much concern & compassion for my moms wishes....my dad would be fine in such a place...my mom not so much. My dad is and always has been a narcissist incapable of appreciating or loving me since my divorce and esp moving in to care for them. I have always been the scapegoat. I watch my mom decline and I am re experiencing such sadness at her slow yet wide, slide into this chapter. She knows it but its scary to her and she says little. She had a STEMI & stroke within the last two mos.and sees things and has lost some more of her vision. She and my dad refused in home PT and it is frustrating. Neither use a walker and my dad skips out when he should be home. I cant take care of her all day and he keeps cancelling home visits from the sitter. I end up having to stay w mom while he goes out and misses her appts etc. My sister bashesme for being unhappy about it and OH POOR DADs to me ! WTF? She should try this day in and out and cancel her life every day because he wants to run out. I feel torn for my mom. It also makes me feel so guilty to feel this overwhelmed and even consider a AL home. How could I do that? I think about what it must be like for her and I feel sick inside. How trapped it must feel. I am unable to feel good watching all this unfold and I want to run away with her and leave my siblings and dad in AL happiness. I think my god - what is this happens to me? and then I realize IT WILL but I have no one to care for me. I also know I am 52 and how much time do I have left? I start seeing my pretty much absent kids as a potential concern in my old age. I feel sad knowing I will be like this one day. I fear it so much. Anyone else - please help me understand why this is not a time of grace and why this happens to one sibling.