My 86 year old father has some physical limitations due to arthritis in his back and knees. However, mentally he is as sound as he ever was. Unfortunately, all he seems to want to do is sleep. He takes (prescribed) Halcion, Norco, or Percocet PRN. Many times, I think he does this just to put himself back to sleep...although I know his pain is real when he tries to walk.
He has seen an orthopedic specialist who gave him a steroid shot in his back which he said helped for a week. However, he still spent 90% of time in his bed. We have a wheelchair, so even if his knees prevented him from walking, we could still take him out.
The only times he is out of bed is every other Monday night when a group of men come to our house to play poker, and once a week for three hours when the housekeeper comes to clean and is cleaning his room.
He quit going to Mass. He won’t go to the Senior Center or go to the K of C. We’ve bought a gym membership for Seniors which he seemed to enjoy for a couple of weeks, but then he quit going. Most days he lies flat on his back watching hours of TV. We do eat supper together, but often times he wants his meals in bed. I don’t want to not feed him, so we do acquiesce rather than have him go hungry. However, I think he needs the mental stimulation and the physical activity of being up and out of his room.
I don't know know what else to do to entice him to get out of bed! I know depression plays a part. He talks about taking a trip to England which I think would be great...if he could physically handle the flight and the tours. However, any time he is up and out of bed usually results in at least a three day period where he stays in bed. He won’t even get up to use the bathroom...he’ll either urinate in a bedside urinal or urinate in the Depends he wears.
What can I do to get him interested in life outside the bedroom walks?