My father is disabled and I get paid to be his direct care worker. He is not quite elderly, but I’m so frustrated and this seems to be the only outlet I can find to possibly help me. It’s my understanding that my “job” is to help protect and improve his health, not hurt it. But, he thinks my “job” is to constantly do whatever he wants/tells me to do... which often include buying cigarettes, junk food shopping every day, special trips just to buy bottles upon bottles of mountain dew to fuel my step-mom’s addiction. I feel so terrible every time I do it and have recently started fighting back, trying to get him to see that my “job” is to help him feel better... not further enable him to feel worse! Is one of us more right in this situation? Do I have to do “anything” he says? Or should his requests be strictly aimed towards his care and well-being? I enjoy spending time with him and need the money to pay my bills, but find myself not wanting to even be around him lately.