My father is 87 and confined to a wheel chair. He is fortunate to have a healthy 70 year old wife as his full time care giver. She is afraid to leave him un attended for even a minute because he will try to get out of his chair and put himself in harms way. He has some memory problems, but we feel he is selective. All he wants to do is sleep. (Sleeps 12 hrs or more a day) He is on little medication, he isn't dealing with being crippled and has lost his will to live. We try to provide family activities to keep him stimulated but we have to force him to do any thing. He is very difficult and we don't care for how ugly he treats his wife. She doesn't have any time to herself. We tell her to go while he's sleeping, she wont leave for fear he'll fall out of bed, or get in his chair and fall out of it. We need to know how to deal with him. Elderly sitters are expensive. Does elderly loose their sense of right from wrong? Is there a such thing as Day Care nursing homes?