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I know that this accusation phase is very, very hurtful. For me it was the worst stage of my husband's dementia. He wasn't deliberately "abusing" me, but, gosh it felt awful just the same.
Trying to convince your mom that she hid the items is futile. She has dementia. Her brain is broken. Reasoning with her just isn't going to work. Something along these lines is often more helpful, and at least doesn't escalate the problem: "Your casserole dish with the brown stripes is missing? I'm so sorry to hear that -- it is a great dish! I don't think I've used it for a long time, but you know my memory isn't perfect. Maybe I misplaced it. Let me have a look around and see if I can locate it."
When my husband would accuse me of stealing his money, I'd say I certainly hadn't deliberately taken money, but maybe I screwed up with the bookkeeping. Here is our bank statement -- see if you can find where the problem is. He'd look it over (sometimes upside down) until he got bored and drop the subject for a while.
A support group will be very beneficial - they will help you on how to deal with difficult behaviors. It was a life saver for me.
There is verbal abuse too. Being criticized for every thing you do for them or being belittled and criticized for who you are or who you aren't is hard to take. Tuning it out works sometimes. Remembering this is not the fully functioning person you once knew can help. The biggest help is to limit the amount of time you are exposed to such behavior. This is why respite care is so important. Constant bombardment with abuse wares on the soul so please take time for you so you are in a good mental and physical condition.
I'm so sorry, I know its not easy. Whether its emotional, physical or verbal abuse, I would try and see out as many resources as possible in the community. There are so many support groups that could help you understand what options are available. Depending on your situation maybe moving your parent into a nursing home that specializes in patients with dementia might be an option to consider.