Dad has always thought he rules the world. He makes the rules; he doesn't follow them. NO one tells HIM what to do. Today I was already fed up with his daily disregard for me and my time, despite the fact that I make all of his meals, do their laundry, clip his and Mom's toenails, get their house repairs done, mow their lawn, clean up their many spills, pick them up when they fall, make all of their dr appointments and take them to them. Whenever I tell him something, he doesn't respond or says "ok" as if he's in another world. I've found that he never registers what I've said, which is really frustrating when it's time to go somewhere and he asks "where are we going?" and isn't ready.
His hearing is fine but he tunes in to only certain people in specific situations, like doctors. All others are beneath him. Today I told him I'd not eaten in over 24 hours due to having to take Mom to the hospital and he hadn't eaten breakfast, so I asked if he wanted to go get groceries with me. He said yes and just wanted to change into other pants. 25 minutes later, he's in the bedroom eating popcorn and isn't ready. I'm furious because we're late as always, so this time I leave without him.
When I return, he wants the keys and wants me to wait while he drives back to the store to get what HE wants without seeing what I bought. I've taken his keys since he had a one-car accident a week ago, and wouldn't give them to him so he berated me for that.
At the hospital he brags about his country club life to random, usually black, nurses because...well, what black female in the south doesn't want to hear some old white man brag about his former country club and who was there?
Today, he wanted to give Mom "holy communion." I stopped him and pointed out that oral fluids and food of any sort were strictly forbidden and there was a sign in the room stating that. Instead of just saying "Oh, I didn't know," he said "to hell with them!" I got mad and stopped him but an hour later, he tried again. I got fed up and said "why are you so arrogant?" why do you think that NO rules apply to you?" he got mad back and said something is wrong with me, so I left and told him I hope he finds his way home (It's only a mile but he'll get lost).
Right now I'm disgusted with him. Mom says he's never uttered an apology in his entire life. She spent decades yelling at him because he doesn't even acknowledge her otherwise.
I need a different perspective.