My dad won't accept that he's losing his memory and refuses help. What can I do?

One more comment. If you can get the POA forms done, get multiple "originals." There are several organizations that will only look at an original, embossed notarized power of attorney form. I took my friend Jim back to the bank to have several more original POAs made. The credit card companies won't accept my authority to question charges for my friend unless I send them an original copy. I only had one to begin with and wasn't about to send it to a credit card company. Since they were being so uncooperative, I got the credit cards in question, cut them up and pasted the owner's plastic name and credit card number to a letter informing them the account was closed and here was proof and that I didn't have time to deal with them any more. It felt good and ended the problem. So, Adult Protective Services can help a lot, and get multiple original copies of the POA. Good luck!

I too am dealing with dad that thinks he wants to drive, although he hasn't gone more than two miles one day in three years. The doctor signed off for him to have a renewed license... I know that I need to tell the doc that dad shouldn't drive, but I just don't want to be the one responsible for "robbing" him of what he feels is his undependece. He has lived with me for 12 years now and the last 4 have been a steady decline. I have to take on the responsibility of (in my mind) ofstopping him and letting what's left of the mountain crumble.😂 The biggest dilemna is that I don't want to prolong it to where he decides to drives while I am at work and possibly causes a fatal accident. I know I have to this. sorry I went on selfish tangent there for min, I do pray that you find your answers. God bless.

In MInnesota, only a relative or a doctor can alert the DMV about a risky driver. Their response is to send a letter requiring them to come in for a driving test, both written and behind-the-wheel. They won't do the driving part of the test unless he has a note from the doctor attesting to his fitness to drive. Without the note, no test. No test, the license is revoked. License revoked, no legal insurance once the insurance company is notified. The DMV does not tell who alerted them. No one needs to know it was you who did this, but if no one else is alerting the DMV, you should--for all the potential horror stories listed above. It can look like someone else did this and you can cooperate helping your father go through the steps. It won't be your fault if the doctor won't approve of his taking a driving test, nor will it be your fault if he doesn't pass. Once the license is revoked, most of the problem is solved. You should be able to convince him to sell the car, pointing out the financial disaster if he drives illegally and insurance won't cover him in an accident. Reassure him this happens to many people at a time in their lives and there is no shame in getting to this point. Rejoice in still being alive and able to enjoy another day more with his loved ones.

You STILL have to disable the car or remove the car from their sight. All this stuff sounds legal and proper, but their brains are deteriorating and they will not take any of it in. They will STILL GO OUT AND DRIVE.