I'm new to this site and am feeling overwhelmed. I've always been very close to my grandmother who, until now, has been a funny, generous and gentle person. My mother (her daughter) passed away 15years ago. My grandmothers husband passed away 6months ago and things have gotten very stressful. My grandmother calls me daily with fire drills (I'm out of toilet paper! I need yogurt to take my medication!) etc. Sometimes she is sad and crying, other times she is angry and yelling. They are remodeling her senior living and she blames me for the chaos and noise because I helped find the place. I am there on average 4x a week. I shop for her, do her laundry, make her bed, take her to dr., etc. But I also have two very small children and it is becoming increasingly stressful to juggle it all. She is isolating herself from the people in her building, our very small family (I have two brothers and an uncle), her remaining friends because they aren't responsive enough when she calls so she calls me more and more. She refuses to use the building shuttle because she feels too unstable. When I mention setting up a schedule (I.e. I'll come every Monday) she gets really angry. When I suggest we ask others for help, she gets angry. She complains and is negative constantly and it is sucking the life out of me. She has considered moving closer to my uncle (20-30 mins away), but he works full time and has health problems so I know she won't get as much support as she wants there either (is it even possible to give them what they want?) Although I think it is a better place, and my uncle will be closer I know I'll still be her main emotional support person because she feels most comfortable with me. Whether she moves or not I need to create better boundaries, has anyone found a system that works? How do you handle the rollercoaster of negative emotions? I love this lady dearly and I want to do what's best. Thank you!