10 years ago, after a stroke, my mother came to live with my husband and I. At the time she could walk with a cane, go up and down stairs on her own and bathe herself. She's now 88 and is only able to walk (with a walker) to and from the bathroom. Unless she has an "accident" it's the only thing she does unassisted. I do have a few hours of help each week through medical. I am so burned out I don't know where to turn. I cry a lot, I feel guilty about everything. At this point it's taken a huge toll on my marriage and my mental health. I was a full time college student and now I'm down to one class per semester. We recently took her to her primary care physician hoping he would help us explain to her that it was time for a care facility. I think he didn't want to be the bad guy, he was very vague, and mom's reply was "that is the last place I would want to go". How do I explain to her that I'm done, I can't do this anymore, that my marriage is suffering, I'm suffering. I honestly believe she would be happier and certainly better cared for in the facility. But she harbors a fear of nursing homes. How do I explain to my mother what caregiver burn out is? How do I tell her it's time? I see all kinds of information on the web about caregiver burnout, list, tips, symptoms... but nothing on how to tell your loved one that you personally are burned out. Sometimes I fear I will never be the person I used to be, that I will never recover from this.