What tips can you give me to handle my frustration rising to very bad temper. I don't believe I will ever harm my dad physically, however I have certainly yelled at him many times and feel bad for it later.
I AND my husband moved in with my dad 3 1/2 years ago. Only the last year has he slipped to needing 24 hour care and not being able to walk at all. He needs bathing, dressing, feeding, transferring from hospital bed to chair, catheter care, and an occasional enema, but I can handle all that for the most part. We now have a paid caregiver in for the night time so that I could sleep again. The issue I am struggling with is the constant neediness and demands of what he believes should be done and when. Calling me 5 times in a 30 minute period., sometimes simply for “what was the name of that pill I took”.
I was the 'Daddy's Girl', the youngest. I had a very good relationship with my dad until this experience. Lately I have often in frustration told my father "I just can't do this anymore" and he pleads in a very childlike way to not leave him. Surprisingly that doesn't make me feel sorry for him but makes me even more frustrated, like a parent with a small child that will not take no for an answer.
I am nearly at the end of my rope, although even that feeling rises and falls with how rested or frustrated I feel.