I have to admit I regularly complain that my mom has basically given up doing anything for herself. She basically sits in a recliner most of the waking day except when she gets up to the use the restroom and then it’s to the chair until bedtime. She rarely if ever takes the initiative to go to the kitchen to make herself a meal unless she’s passing through on her way to or from the bathroom. She mostly refuses outside trips except to the doctor or rarely to my sisters’ for special occasions but those might happen once every few months if that. She expects everyone to come to her if they want to see her. But when that does happen she wants to try and cook for the family like she always had. The problem? Her balance is poor, it causes her a lot of physical pain and her sight is greatly diminished after a retinal occlusion in her right eye took away about 35% of her vision, so she has terrible trouble seeing and gauging distances, numbers, letters etc. Hence when she wants to cook I’m expected to be on hand and available to do whatever she can’t do. Translation: she sits on a kitchen stool at the counter, issuing orders and making me do all the labor just to make her feel useful. I understand her wanting to feel useful and needed but I keep telling her she needs to find other ways that don’t require her to do as many physical tasks that she is now unable to manage alone. But she just gets mad and says she doesn’t have anything else to do and this is all she knows. So I’m at a loss, I don’t know how to help her feel useful but at the same time save me from constantly having to accommodate her laborious demands.