My 81 year old mother-in-law resides with myself, my wife and our 3 young sons (ages 7 and 5 year old twins). She has a myriad of health concerns, primarily Parkinson's Disease. Over the past two years her health has declined. She is able to use a walker for limited mobility but can no longer shower herself, has incontinence issues, she can not prepare meals, she requires assistance to rise from any chair or bed. Her care is approaching 24 hours a day. She self-pays for a caregiver if we need to go out for any length of time but her resources are limited. This level of care is not what we signed on for when we moved her in with us 3 years ago. We are developing feelings of resentment and guilt because her presence and the care she demands are taking away from things we wish to do with our young family. We are beginning to feel trapped in our own home. She has stated emphatically that she will not allow us to place her in a personal care home or skilled nursing facility. In addition to my wife (her daughter) she has two sons who have basically told us that they do not want to be involved except for the occassional visit. Is anyone else in a similar situation and how do you cope? Can anyone offer any suggestions to help us through this?