Can the bank deny my father his money if he has set it up in joint accounts with his children and two of them won't sign to release funds?

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My father is residing in a full care home and his rent and expenses exceed his pensions. I am my father's P.O.A. and have been the only one out of three siblings that has ever done anything for him. I haven't had any communication for 6 years when my BIL talked my father into become his P.O.A. BIL had never any interest in my dad's welfare until he asked if he and my sister could take his bank statements home when my father was in the hospital, my father said he could. My father had just previously lent my daughter a small down payment for a town house and didn't realize it would show on these statements as he didn't want "the others" to know. My brother and sister were quite upset about this and shortly afterwards, I found out the BIL went to my dad's place (he was in assisted living at the time) and took him behind my back to a Notary to become my father's P.O.A. Soon afterwards, BIL set up a meeting at the bank after BIL had talked my dad into investing his money into 3 joint mutual funds with our names on each fund with my joint fund with my father being $11,000 less than the others until the loan was paid back, which I was fine with that part of. The loan was fully paid back within 2 years. These funds were also set up in a way where they required the signatures of the fund holders signatures if my dad were to need to use them. My father was 90 at the time these funds were set up and thought he could trust his children to do the right thing. My father really didn't fully understand everything that was said as he has significant hearing loss even with wearing his hearing aids. BIL had invested some of father's money into an account for funeral expenses and any remaining debts at the time of death. He also left my dad $9,000 to last him the rest of his life. My father had realized shortly afterwards that he had made a terrible mistake appointing BIL P.O.A. and asked me to be his P.O.A. and had BIL revoked. I have been my father's P.O.A. for the last 5 years. Now because of father's rent and expenses in a full care home are exceeding his income, not to mention many other large expenses, multiple hearing aids, new dentures, cataract surgery, glasses, private hospital rooms, the list goes on and on. My father now requires the money that was invested in the 3 joint accounts. When taking my father to the bank to transfer some of his money into an accessible account to pay his bills, the bank manager said the siblings would have to come in and sign to release the funds. My father hasn't heard from them in months and ignores their calls and they refuse to sign. The bank manager said these funds can't be released until sister and brother come into the bank and sign over these funds. Well wouldn't you know, they have refused their own father HIS money. Now we have been advised to hire a lawyer. Even with a lawyer coming into the bank with my dad, the bank manager says there is nothing they can do. My dad is living off of the joint account that is in my name which is totally fine with me. It's been a very long, expensive process dealing with the lawyer and this will eventually go to either Discovery or court which will be extremely costly, not for my dad because he will get his money back but for the siblings but they are too ignorant to realize this and very worried about their so called "inheritance." I forgot to mention that my dad is very cognitive and has a letter from his doctor stating that he is able to make financial decisions. My father's lawyer has also stated that she has spoken with him and he knows exactly what's going on. They have accused me of stealing my dad's money, but I have kept every single receipt for the last 5 years to show every purchase which they refuse to look at as it would cost them money to have the receipts photo copied by the lawyer. I believe this is partly the banks fault for not letting my father have his hard earned money. Given my father's age and the circumstances, you would think the bank would have some compassion for the elderly. Has anyone else experienced this problem with joint accounts?

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The loan to daughter was a personal agreement between dad and daughter and I had nothing to do with it as dad went to the bank with them. The loan was paid back within 2 years. I have hired a lawyer and was advised that dad will get his money back eventually. I was asking if anyone else had experienced this?
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Actually, CM, the father's actions with the BIL have made the money NOT completely his own. He created accounts with shared interest in the money in 3 separate ways. Unfortunately, by doing this, and by the loan to the poster's daughter, he will incur a HUGE Medicaid transfer penalty if he applies for assistance. It is definitely time for a lawyer, because the bank won't release the money without a court's intervention or the siblings releasing funds.
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Stop blaming the bank. They will be following the directions put in place when the accounts were set up.

Also, don't you find it reassuring that the other accounts holders can't access the money without your father's agreement?

Put together your father's budget, on a spreadsheet, backed by invoices, statements, receipts. Include statements from the account you hold jointly with your father, showing how much is left of his funds in that account.

Forward this information to your siblings. Explain that the time is approaching when your father will need access to HIS money to pay HIS bills. Ask them to attend the bank and deal with the issues there.

You do have to accept some responsibility for this, you know. If either one of your siblings' children had taken out a helpful loan and you got to hear about it later on, and your Dad had wanted it to be "their little secret" - how far would you trust them with control of your father's budget? Your siblings don't trust you, and you know why they don't. Their fears may be groundless but you cannot pretend you don't understand where they came from.

Also, you can't have it both ways. One paragraph you're telling us how Evil BIL bamboozled poor old Dad. Couple of paragraphs later, when Dad has revoked one POA and given it to you instead, you're assuring us that everybody, doctor, lawyer, everyone, says Dad is totally fine cognitively and completely in control of his financial decisions. Then, good grief! - if the very next sentence you aren't saying that the bank should relax the rules and cut an elderly man some slack...

I suppose you could ask the bank to contact the account holders to confirm your father's instruction. Has anyone tried that?

Try to disentangle this from the emotions. It is at bottom pretty straightforward. The money in those accounts belongs to your father. Your father is incurring substantial costs, which are eminently verifiable, and will pay them with his own money. There isn't in fact a cash problem, only a cash flow problem. Have patience, keep pushing through the information, and try to reassure your father - don't encourage him with the wailing and gnashing of teeth about "I thought they'd do the right thing..." They haven't, as far as you know, done anything wrong; and his money is safe.
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Well, all banks have rules and regulations they have to follow. Some of them aren’t very user-friendly and highly inconvenience those who have a job to do,  like you as the POA who needs the funds to keep a roof over Dad’s head. Banks don’t care if there’ve been family squabbles and hard feelings or if some of the family members are MIA while others are always present and accounted for. They have a set agenda as to what can be done and how. If the bank manager told you that sibs have to be there to sign, they have to be there to sign. This is why you need to consult an attorney. Attorneys are also rule-folllwers and can present a legal way to circumvent the bank’s rules and get Dad his money back. You are too close to the situation and have less than familial feelings towards your sibs and sibs-in-law. You need someone to represent Dad and his best interests. The others won’t listen to you but would need to listen to an attorney or possibly face legal action.
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