So, my brother who lives near my folks, but by my parents admission, is never there. Managed to access my parents email and then read their emails to their doctors about their health questions. My parents have round the clock care, have their wits about them and really are managing quite well. My brother insists we pay for a Geriatric Case Manager to evaluate the situation. I got on the band wagon as the voice to persuade them, but was met with, "what would they tell us that we don't already know?" And I spoke with their trusted care worker who shared the same opinion. My brother is not a collaborator and is run by anxiety. He seems to go into red alert easily. I really do not mean to minimize his being there, versus my not. But my Aunt was visiting and felt confident about their care. I don't like being told what to do and don't like his approach, but I really don't think he will change. Is it that I just need to set boundaries and respect that he's who he is, or is there anything I can do to decrease the tension?