I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. My FIL, who we suspect may have some cognitive decline/early stage dementia, has not been diagnosed at this point with anything definitive. His doctor noticed some decline but thought it might be related to him not wearing his hearing aids. So for the most part, he is 'mentally healthy' legally.
That being said, we as a family have noticed a significant decline in his processing skills, decision making skills, and just general functioning ability.
The specific issue here lately is scams. The world of scamming has become so sophisticated it is easy for anyone to get taken in. But he is an especially good target. He can't hear without his hearing aids, refuses to wear them...and perhaps the worst problem...he is the true definition of a narcissist, and believes that scammers cannot outsmart him.
But he falls for EVERYTHING!! Amazon is going to charge his account for something....SIL must have set up an Amazon account in his name, everything stops while we find HIS account that was created years before SIL even lived there. With an expired credit card and exactly 2 app downloads in 2014. But he figured out it was a scam...not us telling him it was a scam at the initial phone call.
The latest...he got the call from the 'sheriff's department'. They are going to arrest him for Social Security fraud. "I can't understand the number, please write it down for me!" Cue my SIL losing her mind and telling him under no circumstances is he to return that call, it is a scam. "Well get me the # to the sheriff's department, I have to be sure".
We have had a gazillion conversations about not answering his phone, wearing his hearing aids, not calling the numbers on messages back, not clicking email or text links. But he either does everything we beg him not to do...or his favorite new thing...to engage the scammer, to tell them he knows they are scamming him. We have begged him not to talk to people, that some are so sophisticated all they need is his voice print saying a certain word to do what they need to do.
It does no good. He is above it. No one is able to get one over on him.
I don't know what to do anymore. Short of taking away his cell phone and house phone, and turning off his internet does anyone have any suggestions? Keeping in mind that this man is superior to everyone on the planet and no one can get the better of him. We are the 'children' and cannot possibly know what we are talking about. I have even explained that he is going to feel very embarrassed if he does get taken in by a scammer and that there is literally nothing we can do to fix it if it happens. "I'M NOT GOING TO GET SCAMMED!!!" Well...yes...at some point your luck is going to run out, SIL isn't going to walk in the room in the middle of you trying to give someone your social security number over the phone and it's going to happen. But please, by all means sit there with your Sharpie and mark out the UPC codes on Tylenol so that it can't be traced back to you.
Sigh....this brick wall we keep banging our heads on hurts!!