My mother has been in an ER regularly for the past fifteen years. Ten years ago, it was often attention seeking with the doctors telling her that there is nothing wrong with the exception that she was gorging on junk food. In the past five years, it has been the real deal because she has congestive heart failure and is now on oxygen 24/7. We recently moved her to a new AL because the other one messed up her meds and put her in the hospital. The ER visits are now almost weekly with hospitalizations for a few days for respiratory issues and complications from warfarin. I am self employed and can’t pay my bills when not working. I also have employees for whom I am responsible. I love my mother more than anything, but I am burnt out from it all. I no longer see my friends. I am afraid to schedule any necessary business trips because the ER calls always come at that time. Last Saturday, I had just saddled up my horse for a ride to decompress. Wouldn’t you know, but the ER call came right when I was ready to mount the horse. I feel so selfish, but I broke down crying. My husband is a gem, but he is as worn out as I from this. We can’t even travel six hours to see his family for a weekend because we are afraid to leave. My siblings do not come. Any suggestions? Mom is 91 years old. I know she is not going to get much better, much as I can dream. I just can’t fold a business to be off this much. I almost lost my business last year because of this. It is starting up again.