Dad turned 80, living with me. its OK, but he has mostly his own space. We are all trying to develop space but it gets hard at times. I have noticed he is starting to "embellish" or just plain make stuff up. I can talk around the house or he tells the family or who ever will listen. His friend calls every night at 10 which is great, they need each other to talk to but I hear the conversations and he says everything that goes on in the house. He used to play hard of hearing until I stopped repeating my self, he hears just fine, in fact he hears things I things he cant hear. I took his truck over since he had 2 cars, he said "he gave it to me", I pay the repairs the insurance the registration etc. I hardly drive it as I have another truck. He drives it when he needs to. I added a plow to it and he refers to everyone else 'his truck" but in front of me "your truck". OK i let that one. The family had a big birthday party a few weeks ago. Great. On his actual birthday I took him to my friends house to watch the game and took him a cake. Now he tells everyone my friend threw him a birthday party...... Then I took him out to dinner.
Last night my elderly neighbor fell and I was called to help pick him up. Dad says to my wife that "I must have gotten the need to help people from him", Frankly I don't remember my dad doing that kind of stuff. He helped friends a lot in my growing up as I do too but really (I take care of their yard, snow removal repairs around the house).
Driving him somewhere he tells stories of this famous person or that...... If there is something on the news it is almost like living with Brian Williams.... My brother does the same thing and has always done it. I took it as narcissism. But dad seems to do the same thing. Blows little tid-bits in to huge things."Well this person was the son of an oil tycoon and lived next door, or that person was a famous King of someplace and was just a regular guy". Come on..... I remember where I grew up, not too many famous people there. I am so sensitive to it now I don't even talk with anyone anymore about anything as I as I am so afraid that I will sound like him. He will be in front of my friends and start a story and I say "I don't remember that or I don't recall that. Frustrating.