My husband does not recognize himself in the mirror?

This is very common with AD. Your husband, in his mind, is a much younger man so that man is a stranger. He may become frightened by the "intruder."

One common suggestion for AD caregivers is to remove or cover mirrors. I know - it's hard. But when you "get into his head" - well, think of how you'd react if you walked into a room and saw a stranger standing there!

One more devastating aspect of AD that is far, far too common.
Take care of yourself any way that you can,
Carol

Oh my gosh how awful and frustrating for your husband and YOU! Can you cut down an old sheet that will fit specifically the bathroom mirror, and just keep it in the bathroom? You could affix velcro to both the wall surrounding the mirror and the sheet itself, then putting it up before he takes a shower wouldn't be that big of a problem. You Sure don't want to discourage him from taking showers, then you'll have a whole different issue! ♥

I had to cover a very large mirror in the bathroom with a klight weight plastic table cloth, used painters tape to secure. Have had to take down all mirrors he could see. . It is difficult to get him to take a shower as it is without seeing people in the mirror.

My husband went through the same thing. Somehow he even etched the glass in my antique dining room mirror. I covered every mirror and he then stopped. He is over that now and is in late stage dementia. They seem to go through spells of different things!

This is a symptom of late stage dementia when one does not recognize their own face in a mirror. Don't sweat about it. Just cover the mirrors.

You might check "decorative privacy window film" on Amazon. It' s static cling to put on windows for privacy - you cut to fit. This might work for you on a mirror! It's not easy to peel off, but does come off when you want to remove it. I've used on a bathroom window, as well as on the bottom of a 1st floor window where I just wanted a bit more privacy but didn't want to cut off too much light.

There are LOTS of designs and levels of privacy, so I'd think you could find one that would work for you. (And I'd also think that this would be a relatively easy fix - as well as easy to undo.)

I remember reading that people with dementia at any stage get very confused when looking in a mirror because they don't recognize themselves at this stage of life. If you put a picture of your husband up when he was younger then it might help him to go in the bathroom. My mom had a HORRIBLE time taking a shower when I first took her to the facility. She would fight the attendants and it was terrible. Now she is far enough along that she is wheelchair bound and or bedridden and it's not a problem. They think of themselves as young instead of that old person in the mirror (heck I do too when I look at myself:) (have to keep my sense of humor somehow). Anyway, try to put up a picture of him when he was younger or like posted above, take the mirrors down. Oh, it's also normal for them to fight a shower because they either don't understand what is going to happen in that tiny space plus water hitting them, they think they already have (as in my mother's case when she hadn't showered in a week or so) or it's just something else they are being told to do, at what time and where and how to do it. Don't know how I will react when someone tells me what to do all the time. Good luck and God Bless

On the other side, my Brother's MIL found a new friend. They went to see her and she was telling them about her new neighbor and what a lovely person she was. She said, let me introduce her to you. She went into the bedroom where the mirrored closet doors were and proceeded to have a wonderful conversation with the person in the "apt. next door".

I have a mirror story to share from a friend. He is the sole caregiver of his mom who now has late stage alzheimers. When she had mid stage alzheimers, she had already lost most of her ability to speak but she seemed to still be able to understand when she was spoken to. He estimated that she believed she was between 25 and 30 so when she saw herself in the mirror she didn't see herself. She looked very much like her mother and my friend believes that she thought she was seeing her mother in the mirror. And since she believed she was between 25 and 30, her mother still would have been alive.

She had long "conversations" with her mirror mother punctuated by giggles, laughing and what he could only imagine was talking about her children (grandchildren to her mirror mom) though she mostly babbled nonsense. After these long conversations she would be so content and smiling so he chose to let her continue as such.

As her alzheimers progressed, he estimated she believed she was 16-18, a time which her mother would have been much much younger than her current appearance. At this point, she began having massive arguments with the mirror mom (who she may no longer see as her mom since she had regressed further). She would scream and yell and get herself so worked up she would almost vomit. After a day of this developing, he chose to cover all the mirrors and reflective surfaces (even the toaster, car side mirrors, etc) in an effort to keep her calm. He was fine with the conversations as long as they were making her happy but needed to protect her later.

Eventually he found that this mirror reaction completely ended and he was able to remove the covers. Now in her advanced state she doesn't even acknowledge the mirrors one way or another. I think if the mirrors are causing fear, then definitely cover them. This phase will pass.

Angel

PS - Another idea would be to spray the mirror with "frosted window glass" spray. You can later remove with a razor blade. :)