How do I tell when it is time to put my wife in full time care?

Question

O

osmiii Asked February 2014

How do I tell when it is time to put my wife in full time care?

She has worsening dementia; still knows me; has no sense of time; is incontinent (what a mess); is extremely beligerant when trying to get her to do simple things like getting undressed or dressed or taking a shower or going to bed. She is 71 and incapable of doing just about anything.

Care Decisions

2 Answers

Most
Helpful Newest
First Oldest
First

Recent Questions

Should I go get mom from NH? She's not getting proper medication, she's supposed to be on. They never talk to me about her condition.
Can a 96-year-old move to another country? He is strong, but what about the impact on his mental health? Any advice is appreciated!
Mom has dementia and needs to go to a home soon but cannot afford it. What are our options?

Related Questions

score 0 · Answer 1

I'd say now is the time. Her care is taking too much of a toll on you for one thing, plus she has so many needs that one person is unlikely to be able to provide for all of her care day in and day out.

I'd definitely start looking for a quality care nursing home close to you. Then you can visit and monitor her care, but still concentrate on quality time during visits rather than the physical care you must do now.
Take care of yourself, too.
Carol

Helpful Answer (0)

score 1 · Answer 2

Yes, it is time to have the conversation with her MD about nursing homes. He can also prescribe meds to alleviate her depression. Visit a NH nearby and take a look around. Is it clean? Ask to try a meal, they will do that.
Once she is there, you can enjoy her company and leave the hard work to the professionals. She will need time to adjust, but most residents bond to their caregivers quite nicely.

Helpful Answer (1)

How do I tell when it is time to put my wife in full time care?

2 Answers

Recent Questions

Popular Questions

Related Questions

Ask a Question