I apologize in advance if this topic has been previously covered. I find similar questions, but not quite the same scenario or corresponding answers.
My mom will be 80 this year and about 6 years ago started displaying signs of dementia. MRI follow-up with doctor showed "white matter disease" and the neuro said she had vascular dementia.
The major obstacle here is she flat-out refuses to be seen by a physician. Apart from the dementia she also has severe osteoarthritis, has been diagnosed Type II diabetic, and has heart disease. She saw a doctor last 4 years ago! No amount of pleading changes her mind. She has a lot of pain, but still refuses. Prior to the dementia, she would on occasion see a doctor, but frankly, hates them. I don't know if there is anything that can be done for the dementia - I would say it is moderate heading toward severe - but I would love to have her seen by a professional. She is currently not on any meds.
We live together and I am the only caregiver and am disabled from several autoimmune diseases. I have one sibling who has no contact with us and no other family. I am unable to leave her for any period of time and have no type of support. That's another thing - she will not have anyone in her home. I offered to have a doctor come to the house well, her response was too colorful for this forum. I cannot leave to attend caregiver support meetings. At the risk of sounding whiney, I am having increased trouble with my health now due to the stress of dealing with the ins and outs of Mom's dementia.
I should add that I do not have POV, nor does she have ANY legal forms in place. I think she thought she "had time", but now, time is running out. I have to admit, this scares me - I love my mother and want to do the best I can for her and not leave decisions up to someone else who doesn't care.
I am thankful for the info I have gleaned from this site. Prior to this evening, I have felt very depressed, but reading many of the articles has shown me I am not alone.
Thank you for your suggestions and answers.