My mother in law is 87 and has no relatives but me. My husband, her only child, died several years ago. I have been taking care of her as well as possible. I go to her home everyday,at least once, organize and administer medicines, pay bills, buy groceries, cook and clean. I also have a very demanding job that she constantly complains about because it takes time from her. I have let her control me for years. She has always been very controlling and it has exacerbated with age and dementia. She does not want to leave her home, which I understand, but she does not want help to come in, either. Her doctor has put his foot down and said she must make a choice. She wants me to tell him we can handle it but I really can't anymore. How do you get past this guilt? She has lived alone for years but it is just not safe anymore.