My dad blames me for everything to everybody. He holds so much anger and verbally lashes out at me at every visit. He keeps telling me I need to fix things that can’t be fixed. He thinks he needs me to take him to the doctor to fix his:
-"carpal Tunnel” (permanent nerve damage from cellulitis)
-“broken legs” (he's had knee replacements 3 times)
-replace all teeth with implants instead of getting fillings
He’s constantly wanting to go shopping (he’s an obsessive shopper and hoarder but already has everything he needs). I have taking him shopping for shoes and clothing.
He wants to:
-move back to his home that’s over 2 hours away with nobody to care for him,
-Drive his fancy car and golf cart in parades.
He keeps taking things apart in his room:
-took coaxial off of new TV
-takes batteries out of hanging clock
-moves furniture around
-rearranges dresser drawers
-folds dirty clothes before putting in hamper
The list goes on and on and repeats itself with every visit. Diversion agitates him even more. “I’m too angry to eat!”, “I don’t want to go for a walk or do anything with you!”, “where have you been?”.......
I love my dad and feel the need to check in with his care providers almost daily, but I'm finding myself not wanting to visit him.
The doctor has already prescribed medication and it does seem to help a little bit with hand wringing, rocking and teeth grinding. How can I make our visits more meaningful and less painful?