My dad called ten times over the weekend leaving increasingly angry messages each time. Nothing was wrong and nobody was dying. He just wanted me to return his initial call. He called my cell phone, then the home phone, then my husband's cell. He and mom are both 80 and dad is the exhausted caregiver to mom with early dementia. I'd like to say this was the first time he's gone on this type of tirade, but no. He's done it on and off for several years. I used to diligently pick up or return parent's calls immediately, but being "on call" for them is exhausting and they always find other things to be displeased about. I am a do-it-yourselfer and was literally up to my eyeballs in plaster last weekend - not checking voice mails. I've told dad before that there's no need and that type of routine is un-called for, but he gets angry and tells me I don't care about anyone but myself. It is usually followed by a few weeks of the silent treatment from him (actually a welcome break), then within time he's right back at it. How does anyone deal with this behavior from a parent? I actually feel attacked by my dad and somewhat abused by this tirade. How on earth could he ever think his continuous "phone call attack" would ever draw me closer? Is this behavior normal? I've posted before I thought mom might have narcissistic traits and dad has always been her dutiful assistant. He's rigid and judgmental. I've fantasized about going no contact with them for the past 20 years but my sense of obligation and guilt keeps me in their line of fire.