I live with my mother and father, Mom 91, Dad 89. It was a temporary move to help with Mom when first diagnosed with dementia but seems to have become permanent.
Mom has always suffered with anxiety, her own mother was agoraphobic, but I'm struggling to separate the anxiety from the dementia.
She doesn't leave the house except for a few doctor/clinic appts and it is always a monumental struggle to get her out of bed and downstairs.
The occasions she comes downstairs have become fewer and fewer, she hates getting out of bed and we've only 'made her' to try and get her to move a little bit and avoid the pitfalls of staying in bed.
She is generally happy enough and chuckling away to herself until you want her to do something and then she becomes very stubborn.
To get her in the bath or shower is a no-no and it concerns me that her hygiene isn't the best.
It's a battle trying to wash her or her hair and change her clothes.
I'd like to have someone come in and give us some advice on how to handle things Dad doesn't want anyone in the house!!!
Anyway on Thursday evening we brought her downstairs but when it came to going back up to bed she wouldn't go and sat on the floor shaking and convulsing.
After much effort we managed to sit her on the sofa and had to leave her there overnight with one of us sitting with her.
We managed to get her back upstairs the next day with great difficulty and since then she won't get out of bed to go to the toilet and doesn't want to eat or drink.
If you take her a drink she suddenly doesn't seem to know what to do with it. Earlier she just stuck out her tongue.
At the moment if you try to move her slightly she just starts shaking violently and convulsing and saying she's frightened.
She has also just wet the bed
We're getting the doctor in tomorrow but does anyone have any thoughts?