I remember some seven yrs or so ago, before mom died, we all had had a family discussion about how hard it was to get my grandmother to realize she needed help. Both mom and dad said then that they promised not to be that way with us kids, that if the three of us agreed they needed help they would listen us, knowing we had their backs and were acting out of love. Now my dad, age 84, is refusing the help he needs, although all three of us are in agreement that he should no longer be living alone and needs to go live with my brother or, at least needs some kind of home health care (which he can well afford).
What is it that turns advanced seniors into turncoats when it's their turn to give up the independence when they knew this time was coming and when they felt completely different when they were young enough, or healthy enough, not to need the help?
Wouldn't you think the trouble they had with their elderly parents would have taught them a thing or two. Are our troubles going to teach us or are we going to be just like them in 20 or so years from now?