Having a Down Day...

I feel caught in a whirlwind, mom in a care home fighting hard to get out. I work full-time and have other family obligations. Mom does not accept having cognitive limitations which in her case are major (memory loss, paranoia, anxiety and delusions) she resents myself and her caretaker accusing us of trying take over her life.

Last week consisted of contact from either mom, or caretaker about her bizarre behavior which included refusing to bathe and the big one sundowners not sleeping at night, wandering the house and disturbing other residents that were trying to sleep. Caretaker calling requesting talk to doctor about medication to help her sleep. If familiar with HMO coverage try getting quick response from a doctor (impossible) and mom calling to complain about caretaker demanding I get her out of there forgetting about verbal abuse she’s been serving up. Finally able to get meds, drop them off at board and care.

Wake up this morning to cycle beginning again message from caretaker dosage not strong enough mom up all night again, and frantic calls from mom to contact her. Not a good day!