I am a long term carer for an elderly partner who has undergone cancer treatment. We have always had a close and loving relationship but in the past few months my partner seems to resent me increasingly. I work 24/7 to help and support him and to make things easier for him, but we seem to have reached a point where everything I do is in some way wrong. I try so hard but in recent months he criticises and finds fault with virtually everything I do. I am at my wits end with sadness and tiredness and just can't understand why he has come to treat me as nothing more than a rather irritating servant. Has anyone else experienced this? It's breaking my heart and I feel more lonely than I ever have in my life. Would really appreciate knowing if this is a situation other have experienced.
But do it only for those things which he actually can do himself.
You're not alone in this situation.
You might have a nice frank talk with him as he actually may not realize how hostile he's become. But also make it clear that his attitude has to change. You're entitled to respect.
It wouldn't hurt to start backing off in terms of what you do for him and let him begin to help himself, to the extent he's able.
And definitely cut back on the 24/7 work; you need to get away from him as well as the home environment for your own sanity.