Getting involved in the ‘Activities’ program.

Me, I am a talker. Mom couldn't hold a conversation but some of the residents could. Even talked with families and Mom was nearby. Her AL did have an activities coordinator. Entertainment was brought in. Mom loved music. I took my grandson I babysat on visits. He was about 3 then and Mom loved seeing him as did the residents. One man in particular would roll him a ball and he would roll it back.

I don't read out loud. Guess it has something to do with having to read a paragraph in school. I get nervous in those type of situations.

They brought a boxer service dog into Moms NH. Sitting down you were face to face with him. I am leary of big dogs so I left the area. To me boxers are kind of scary. But the residents seemed to love it.

My husband will
go and play the guitar to the residents in MC where his mother is. He learned songs they would know and Had sing alongs

I volunteered to read for a couple of hours on the first Tuesday of the month, in the dining room coming up to lunch time.. The ‘nursing home’ was a wing of our local hospital, which is really there for farm emergencies, post release from city hospitals that are too far for family visits but still need monitoring, and aged care. It has an activities co-ordinator, who organised my stints.

I actually wrote a ‘Volunteer Handbook’ in my working life, and checked out with various bodies. Volunteers are easier to organise if the hours are short and convenient (eg come at the end of a shopping trip, certainly not more than once a week). Company for the volunteer is essential, either by working in pairs or by close contact with permanent staff. So is thanks – it needs to be part of the facility’s routine, so passing staff say hello and smile.

It took me a while to get my reading organised. A short chapter or short short story, a poem (best something old that might be remembered from school), sometimes a bit of the Bible. I sometimes used to sing an old song (no voice, but no-one minded, they would nod along and smile). It’s a short attention span thing, definitely not a big production.

The big hospital in Alice Springs has volunteers who go around with a trolley with magazines and little things to show, and stop and chat with anyone who is awake and bored. That’s another option.

I must add that a ‘rabbit rescue’ program is a jaw-dropper for an Australian!

When my mother was in a small NH, I was active in rabbit rescue and had a few house rabbits myself, plus adopted dogs and adopted birds.

One rabbit, Bill, acted like less like a rabbit, more like a cool cat, and was very comfortable being held. I used to bring Bill to see my mother, and the next time I might bring a dog. (Obviously, some animals would not be a good fit for this.)

None of the animals were certified; the NH trusted my judgment and so allowed it.

The original intent was for my mother, but the residents just loved to see me walk in with Bill or Meisha to get their animal fix on. Could make my eyes tear up. They were so in need of touch (!) beyond their daily medical pokes and jabs, and enjoyed even a momentary sense of companionship.

A larger facility would most likely require certification. (My niece is presently getting her latest adopted dog certified in order to visit NHs.)

I know I haven't offered a very practical idea, but it might spark some ideas.

This is a regret of mine. I wish I’d done more than just visit my mom during her NH years. The residents were so eager for someone to just listen, to be a friend. My mom lost many friends when she entered care, they were just spooked by her condition. Perhaps they feared on some level that her circumstances could be contagious. I remember telling people who’d say they didn’t know what to do, to just hold her hand

Mom's NH had an activities director and a volunteers coordinator too Geaton, I often wondered what they did all day 🙄

And while scheduled activities have their place spontaneity can be good too, we loved it when one of the residents would practice on the piano and even having a couple of the PSW's take 5 minutes to play chopsticks was a mood brightener!

My MIL's facility is large enough that they have an activities director and also someone who coordinates volunteers. But if your LO is in a place with little or no distractions, I don't think one has to make activities into a dog-and-pony show: just talk to the admin and ask if you can come once a week/month whatever to entertain the people. But you should commit to a regular schedule and confirm with the admin prior to every appearance so that you can be looped in on their schedule changes. Maybe do it right after one of the meals so the staff doesn't have to gather participants in one place? Gathering people will tax the staff and burn up a lot of time. It can be like herding cats. If residents' LOs are informed of the activity and invited to just bring their LO and be present, you may develop a pool of interested volunteers.

When my son was young he went to a non-profit daycare/preschool and "Grandma Pat" used to come and have storytime with the older kids once a week. She was just a neighborhood Granny (or attended the church that housed the preschool) and I don't think she even had a relative at that daycare. She was greated like a rock star when she came (and she was very advanced in years).

I've served on several boards of non-profit organizations that depend on volunteers and although it sounds lovely in theory, it has proven challenging to keep the same volunteers coming on the same schedule. Retired people don't seem to like being on a committed schedule anymore (not that I blame them). In the summertime teenagers who are too young to work may be a good pool of helpers or entertainers. Some highschools now required some community service (in the US) as part of their graduation requirement. Boy or Girl Scouts (if they can stop peddling cookies for a minute). Maybe talk to a church youth group pastor (they are often grateful for ideas and outlets for their kids). It will be easier to solicit help if your activity has a defined beginning and end date because it will be a more tolerable commitment. It is a worthy idea and effort, and better than nothing.

Although I might have been willing to join a group of volunteers it's not in me to organize and run one, and unfortunately the volunteer programs at my mom's NH were practically nonexistant. The one big thing that seemed to perk almost everyone up was any kind of music, and it didn't matter if the people were talented!