Tired and feeling unappreciated.
My mother and I have served as caregivers for her mother/my grandmother for the past 2 years. We provide her with around the clock care, especially now that she is in home hospice. We are tired, but we work out of love. I understand that confusion comes with dementia, but we never receive any thanks for what we do (which is everything, often including feeding and toilet duties, as well as the regular house work, cooking, cleaning, and changing of sheets.) We keep trying to take a few days off for respite care, but we hesitate to be out of town in case she passes. Recently, her health has really taken a turn for the worse. I am a college student in nursing school, and while I don't mind caring for her, I consistantly feel overwhelmed and burned out. I worry about my mom, because while I am only 20 and can handle the sleepless nights and long days, she is nearing 70 and cannot. How do we find relief while still being there for our loved one? Once a week, we have someone come in during the day so we can get out for a few hours, but it never feels like enough.