Is this just my situation or is it common in caregiving just to give in and become couch potato. The second I go to do anything I get yelled for.

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Okay My MIL came to live with us & she has dementia and now has temporary colostomy even though we have empty room everyone decided front room was best place to put her bed well seems like all day we are watching t.v. it doesnt matter what I watch except Dr Oz (which she will repeat 100x I hate this man) I took advantage of that in beginning but, I am caught up on my t.v. now just plain sick of t.v. computer Thank god for this forum.......seems like no matter what cant keep her busy she dont want to really call anyone & no one seldom for her...Any suggestions????

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Get guard rails on the bed and buy wireless headphones for the TV. Sanity savers. Check what services she could be eligible for that could give you some relief.
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My 89-year-old father sits in the living room most of the day listening to talking books. I've gotten to the point where I can't stand to be around him very often and I end up staying in my bedroom most of the time. I have a TV and the Internet, but still... We have a 2-bedroom apartment now and I feel like the walls are closing in. I do get out and walk when the weather is okay, but still will be glad when I have a larger area to live in.

I understand the need to stay in separate areas.Just will be glad when I have my own place.
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Depending on the elderly persons/parents mobility, I would like suggest senior day care or camp. Most communities have them at little or no cost. My boss is Jewish, and there is a wonderful one here. She doesn't go that much anymore because she is ashamed of the fact that she can hardly walk , and is too proud to let her peers or friends see her like that. I tell her, at this stage of the game, it shouldn't matter. But, I know the senior daycare facilities can be life savers for the caregiver that needs a break. Some may not be interested. If you highlight the fact that they will have a break from you for a while, and will be independently going about their own business while at the facilities, they may help convince them. They all serve hit meals, and have many activities. There's even a few poker games to partake....if you can keep it on the down-low. At least there is at the one I've visited. But, you're not supposed to say anything, and if you do the elderly men get mad as hell! Even if for just a few hours a day or week. Break up the monotony. Good luck...p.s. I push my boss around the block too...at least three times a week. She loves that!
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My 89-year-old father sits in the living room most of the day listening to talking books. I've gotten to the point where I can't stand to be around him very often and I end up staying in my bedroom most of the time. I have a TV and the Internet, but still... We have a 2-bedroom apartment now and I feel like the walls are closing in. I do get out and walk when the weather is okay, but still will be glad when I have a larger area to live in.

I understand the need to stay in separate areas.Just will be glad when I have my own place.
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Boy, are you related to me? I hear myself in your words. I've recently setup my facebook. I've been chatting with friends that I haven't seen in 35 yrs. It really helps me, you should give it a try. Oh another thing I've recently done is, I've decided that I'm going to try to make the evenings after work more fun. I ordered a small pizza for me and Mom wanted a BLT. The food comes with free popcorn. We had fun with the popcorn! We threw popcorn for the Kitties to play with, it was funny. I had to pick up the mess but it was fun while it lasted. Yup, I'm a couch potatoe too. During the work week, after work, I take mom out shopping, we really don't need anything but it gives Mom a chance to get out of the house and we just walk around the stores looking at stuff. We usually buy something, but not alot. Just some ideas that I've come up with.
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I recently bought a couple exercise rubber bands that comes with DVDs, it's just right for me and I'm 50 and very out of shape. It's also good for my Mom. We can watch the DVD together and try to exercise together in the living room. It's something different to do besides just watching TV. Here's the description of it: Everlast Total Body Compact Resistance Exerciser w/DVD
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Bloomer gal Dont sound like your father needs you there your lucky to be getting your own place Im in my house but MIL needs me pretty much 24/7 I cant stay in bedroom or she would fall or play with her colostomy bag (she says it itches) Which she has surgery to reverse it Monday.... YEAH!
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You do need your own space and time, maybe someone can come and take care of her or sit with her for a few hours a day, have you turned to your church? alot of them will help with just sitting and talking with her. I have the opposite in my house, My FIL stays in his room making himself busy with going through notes that we have already taken care of and when he does come into the main part of the house to ask me something and I answer he gets mad at me for whatever. so I have started to withdraw. But there is hope that we can get him into assisted living. If not then I will check myself into the funny farm lol just kidding have to try and make light of this dark situation somehow.
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My 89-year-old father sits in the living room most of the day listening to talking books. I've gotten to the point where I can't stand to be around him very often and I end up staying in my bedroom most of the time. I have a TV and the Internet, but still... We have a 2-bedroom apartment now and I feel like the walls are closing in. I do get out and walk when the weather is okay, but still will be glad when I have a larger area to live in.

I understand the need to stay in separate areas.Just will be glad when I have my own place.
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I'm glad you liked my suggestions. My dad would fall in the nursing home because the alarm tells you when they get up but by then you are on the run to get their fast enough. The video monitor is the day time god send. My dad has not had a fall in the 4 1/2 months he has been here. Take care tbailey and good luck. Love, Hugs and Best Wishes.
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