Drop in visitors.
I don't know if I am just a freak or if something is wrong with me, or if I am just so tired and exhausted most of the time it is making this way...but...is there anyone else out there who literally gets angry when folks just pop in randomly, offer no support emotionally and seem to present themselves mainly to lessen any guilt they may feel for not having checked on my Mom more in the previous years...I am so tired of people thinking I actually want to see them. Dont' get me wrong, there are folks whom I love, but to be honest they call before coming and also offer when here to let me run any errands I might need to run but the ones I am referring to are folks who, all my life, were pretty sniping, rude, invasive, lazy or just plain not really a part of our lives and now they seem to think they are long long friends. Mom has advanced dementia / alzheimers and most of these people she could care less if they come or not. and I sure don't want them here. And they have a knack for coming on a day when I have a headache, look like hell, or just in general need time to pull myself together. They cannot take a hint, (I have tried) and I have tried to be polite and even called them later and expressed to them to please call before coming as I don't always feel like coming. I have on a couple of occasions gotten flat out rude to them but they still return. So I' am thinking the problem must be me...does anyone else feel this way? BTW...I have a couple of folks who do message prior to coming and one in particular's general MO is that she is extremely depressed and is coming to see me...well you know what? I am not responsible for everyone else's mental health. I am doing well to hold onto my sanity....what am I doing wrong that these people don't get the message??? or have I already lost my mind and don't realize it?