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My mom is 82. I have been telling her doctor for months that she hardly eats and is not absorbing what she does. she eats a decent breakfast but that is it. For a long time the doctor kept telling me that is not abnormal for her age, but now she has been diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the liver, and because she has a HMO I have to wait for the specialist to tell me how advanced it is. But I think she is scared and is depressed because out of a 24 hour day she sleeps about 16 maybe 20 she sleeps over 12 years in the night and a two hour nap on the after and cat naps the rest of the time she can't stay awake is this from the Cirrhosis or depression. or both and what can I do to make it better!


Sounds a lot like depression and/or anxiety. Does mom have dementia?
Aside from seeing the specialist for your mom's Cirrhosis, would you consider seeking a second opinion about your mom's changed eating habits? Maybe somone who deals with depression in seniors.
Some people have noticed once they move their love one into a continuing care facility that they perk up because they are around people of their own generation.... thus they have a lot to talk about.... and new friends are made. I don't know if that would help your Mom or even it would be something to put on the table to discuss.

Your Mom could be sleeping a lot due to whatever medication she is taking, some stuff can really zone you out, especially blood pressure meds. If she is on a high dosage of blood pressure meds, see if the dosage could be safely reduced under a doctor's order. Plus your Mom could also be sleeping out of boredom.
When the liver isn't working right, the rest of the body is affected. There are so many things the liver does -- preparing and storing energy and nutrients for the body, detoxifying the blood and preparing them for excretion. I remember hearing there are 500 things that the liver does. It is particularly important in digestion and providing energy for the body. If the damage to the liver is severe, loss of appetite and extreme fatigue are expected. Of course, lack of energy can cause depression all by itself. All the things you describe can be caused by liver failure. I hope that you will be able to get things worked through with your HMO soon.
The loss of appetite and fatigue/sleeping a lot can be due to the liver disease itself. Depression could also contribute to it.

I am not impressed with your doctor's answers. It is too easy to lump symptoms into "Due to aging". My mother was getting more tired in her 80s and I suggested she have her doctor test her for thyroid disease. He did she had a problem, got meds and perked up. She could have stayed ill for a long time before they found it. I think if a senior is showing any symptoms it is a good ides to have them see a geriatrician who may be more sensitive to their needs.

Hope you find out what is happening soon.
Can you take her to the ER?
Thanks everyone I am most concerned with the sleeping all the time. Her eating habits have been this way for years. When I first started taking over my mom's health care was 4 years ago when she was in her own home she was a very poor eater then. she got real sick and was hospitalized and put in convalescent care for 3 months that is when she came to live with me and my family. but getting her to eat is has been an on going battle for years. The sleeping is new. we have discussed her going to a assisted care living center but my mom's mind is a sharp as a tack even now and she does not want that she wants to be with my family. She is very close to my daughter she helped me raise her. she has been having morning Hallucinations the doctor suggested O2 at night and that seems to have straightened that out. I have been dealing with this for as I said 4 years and I really appreciate all your input I should have joined this years ago.

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