I want to stay positive and not be that person who seems negative but it's hard to "put on a smile" when dealing with so much. Most people don't have a clue and that's OK but I cringe when they want to think they understand by sharing a story about a sick grandma or something. Nobody wants to hear the real answer to "Hows your day?" and it feels fake when I side-step the answer to keep it positive. That usually gives the impression everythings fine but I'm screaming inside. This makes me more isolated to avoid that which is probably the worse thing to do and I obviously can't have those "discussions" with my spouse. The most probably response is to try and find a support group but how do you tell your wife to have the aide stay longer because you aren't coming home right after work???
How does that not make them feel like a burden?