I'm at my wits end...new here.
Where to begin...My name's David and I'm 46 y.o. with an 85 y.o. Mom who's going blind and her short-term memory is shot. I'm pretty much the primary care person in our family even though there's 4 more siblings... 3 sisters and an older brother; I'm the youngest. 2 of the sisters are MOS (married and out of state) and the closest sis is also married and helps when she can (when I say "when she can", it's literally cause she can't do anything unless her a-hole husband says she can). My older brother lives with Mom and I but he's having a lot of mental and emotional issues which makes his moods go up, down and all around and I can't deal with him sometimes. So like I said I'm the primary caregiver for my Mom who's physically able to do things but is very depressed so she doesn't do anything but sleep all day(says she doesn't really sleep but just lays there...her excuse is "Why should I get up; there's nothing to do" WHen she chooses to get up she goes straight to her recliner and the TV which is her only form of entertainment...She had vision problems in the past for which she went through the Lasik eye surgery for cataracts or glaucoma back in 2008 or 2009 but as of this past year it's come back again...she says everything is blurry or cloudy so she can't see very well...can't see the numbers on the remote, can't read magazines or the TV Guide. She also has memory loss so sometimes she asks the same questions over and over...Always asks what day it is and if it's day or night!!! Other than those issues she's just gotten LAZY...she doesn't bathe or do her towel bath like she used to; I dread the evenings cause then it's the "channel changing game"... I will put something on for her to watch and after a few minutes she starts her whining cause the program is "boring", they talk too much, she doesn't understand what's going on, etc. So I change the channel...10 or 20 times a night... then it's "I want to watch the Spanish channels" so I put them on and she just can't sit and watch whatever's on...she can't see the remote buttons too well but she changes them anyways and pretty soon she's sitting there whining again with the TV on a blank channel...you get the idea...EVERY NIGHT!!! I get frustrated and can't take it...then the mental abuse kicks in...starts her attitude and takes it out on me...not to mention I have to keep the house clean, cook for her, care for her 4 cats (feeding, changing litter, etc.) and with no help whatsoever. Since she gets up late sometimes 6,7 or 8'oclock she'll be up till 2 or 3am with her channel game. I always rise at 6:30 or 7am so I try to be in bed by 9 or 10 but she'll keep yelling at me to change the channel again & again and I'll be up till she gets tired of the TV and goes to bed. There's more to this story but I'm sure you get it...like my user name, I'm "at my wit's end"... David