mom wants to live with us. we've done this before and it didn't work. we have nothing in common being that she is critical of everyone and very negative. changing the conversation only comes back to herself. since she has no hobbies except watching tv, every conversation is doom and gloom. she wants my family to provide all her interaction and companionship. she talks about relatives that I no longer know since I haven't seen these people in 40 years. the grandkids sure don't know these people. she likes being around my kids because they are polite and respectful but they are tired of doing her feet, hair and back rubs. she takes no interest in what they do because she can't relate to any of it since she locks herself away in her IL apartment and won't socialize. I homeschool them so she assumes I should be able to drag them over to school at her apartment 45 min. away anytime she wants company. I try to visit once a week, take her on walks, but she just wants to talk about her illnesses. hubby helps sometimes but can only tolerate so much. she has relatives in another state that aren't raising families and are retired, but she wants to be in this state with me and only wants me or my family doing for her. I set her up with agency for doc appointments and rides, but she drops hints that she prefers me to do these things despite me setting boundaries. I ALWAYS feel guilty!